That might sound painful, and it is, but in its way, it’s also a sort of gift, the gift of empathy. See what I mean about unanswerable questions? There are plenty more where those came from, and they never really go away. What do you tell children who aren’t likely to get lucky like Saroo, that barring an actual, bonafide miracle, Google Earth isn’t going to help? Is there a way, any way at all, to help a child process that level of loss? After all, you’re not just asking them to accept reality they’re going to have to abandon their fantasies too.How do you build a self out of that, particularly a self you can rely on? How do you form an identity when you have neither name nor place of origin? Sure, you might cobble something together, and like Saroo, seem relatively fine, but stories with unclear beginnings stand on pretty shaky ground.But do we know? Can we know his heart for sure? And if we could, what would we do with the hurts we find? What’s it like to be the sibling of a seriously challenging child? Saroo alludes to the times he felt overlooked, left to his own devices as his parents attended to his brother’s more visible needs and behaviors.Where does developmental trauma end and “normal” development begin? Yes, these things could be explained by temperament or maturity, but then again, maybe not. He can’t focus, settle, what we might call grow up. Saroo hints at some of these in his younger brother. ![]()
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